Comments on: Remember. http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/ Also good with wine. Mon, 22 Jun 2009 07:35:13 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Denise http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1547 Denise Thu, 17 Jan 2008 03:21:08 +0000 http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1547 Hi - just want to reiterate what others have said - you are a wonderfully moving writer and extremely brave to share your struggles. I hope you can see that now, but if not, remember how you felt like a 10 or 12 when you were really a 4? Sometimes we're not the best ones to judge ourselves accurately. All the best to you. Hi – just want to reiterate what others have said – you are a wonderfully moving writer and extremely brave to share your struggles. I hope you can see that now, but if not, remember how you felt like a 10 or 12 when you were really a 4? Sometimes we’re not the best ones to judge ourselves accurately. All the best to you.

]]> By: Jill http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1222 Jill Thu, 13 Dec 2007 16:06:25 +0000 http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1222 Hey Cheesy - have you come out from under the ice yet???? Still no power in my part of town - work has electric for the first time all week. To borrow a phrase from you - this is one big bowl of suck!!!! Hope you are staying warm! Hey Cheesy – have you come out from under the ice yet???? Still no power in my part of town – work has electric for the first time all week. To borrow a phrase from you – this is one big bowl of suck!!!! Hope you are staying warm!

]]> By: Kelly http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1217 Kelly Thu, 13 Dec 2007 00:00:56 +0000 http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1217 I found your blog today and just read the whole thing. You have really made me stop and think about a lot of the negative things I've been doing to myself. About 2 yrs ago I had come to accept myself and my size..then I got diagnosed as hyopthyroid, starting taking meds and lost 50lbs in 4 months. I've gained back about 10 over the last 6 months and seriously started freaking out. Right now, I'm really trying to concentrate on eating good food and not judging every calorie. I also started running about a year ago and I love it, but its hard not to use it to punish myself for "bad" eating. Maybe my body needs those extra 10lbs for running. Anyway, I wanted to let you know that this blog is great and I will be stopping by often. Oh, and I just ate a mini cheesecake piece I've been avoiding for 2 days...the world did not end and it tasted like heaven. Thank you. I found your blog today and just read the whole thing. You have really made me stop and think about a lot of the negative things I’ve been doing to myself. About 2 yrs ago I had come to accept myself and my size..then I got diagnosed as hyopthyroid, starting taking meds and lost 50lbs in 4 months. I’ve gained back about 10 over the last 6 months and seriously started freaking out. Right now, I’m really trying to concentrate on eating good food and not judging every calorie. I also started running about a year ago and I love it, but its hard not to use it to punish myself for “bad” eating. Maybe my body needs those extra 10lbs for running. Anyway, I wanted to let you know that this blog is great and I will be stopping by often. Oh, and I just ate a mini cheesecake piece I’ve been avoiding for 2 days…the world did not end and it tasted like heaven. Thank you.

]]> By: 34 « Zmama’s Balancing Act http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1216 34 « Zmama’s Balancing Act Wed, 12 Dec 2007 21:46:05 +0000 http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1216 [...] today, I have read several of my favorite blogs and was lucky enough to stumble across this and this. Two bloggers who I really respect and admire - and, admittedly, put on a bit of a pedestal. And [...] [...] today, I have read several of my favorite blogs and was lucky enough to stumble across this and this. Two bloggers who I really respect and admire – and, admittedly, put on a bit of a pedestal. And [...]

]]> By: zmama75 http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1215 zmama75 Wed, 12 Dec 2007 20:23:13 +0000 http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1215 Happy birthday! Thank you so much for sharing that. I have to admit, a big part of me was nodding right along with Crystal. Your response really made me think. I am struggling over here and it was just what I needed to read today (I seem to reply to your posts with that a lot!). And if your talent for writing and ability to reach out to so many people doesn't make you special - well, forget that. It totally does. Happy birthday! Thank you so much for sharing that.

I have to admit, a big part of me was nodding right along with Crystal. Your response really made me think. I am struggling over here and it was just what I needed to read today (I seem to reply to your posts with that a lot!).

And if your talent for writing and ability to reach out to so many people doesn’t make you special – well, forget that. It totally does.

]]> By: Entangled http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1213 Entangled Wed, 12 Dec 2007 04:37:50 +0000 http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1213 <i>Which can be great thins when used towards great end.</i> and in a horrible freudian typo, that was meant to be great things. i'd have accidentally offended myself if the expression didn't exemplify how being thin is so not the same thing as being a great person. man, it is so clearly my bedtime. Which can be great thins when used towards great end.

and in a horrible freudian typo, that was meant to be great things. i’d have accidentally offended myself if the expression didn’t exemplify how being thin is so not the same thing as being a great person.

man, it is so clearly my bedtime.

]]> By: Entangled http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1212 Entangled Wed, 12 Dec 2007 04:35:21 +0000 http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1212 <i>So, please don’t feel envious of my “discipline,” because it totally wasn’t that.</i> That's really quite brilliant. It doesn't take that much discipline to get set in a routine and stick to it out of fear of not being good enough. What takes true discipline and strength is to do what's right when every message around you is that you're doing everything all wrong. I have hard physical stop signs and somehow ended up hard-wired against visibly dieting, so two workouts a day or six hours without food leave me pretty much unable to walk. But I do work out every morning and eat tons of vegetables and all these things that are looked at with some degree of admiration, as if they exemplify willpower. But I LIKE having a morning routine and getting sweaty and gross before work. I like vegetables so much I have to cut down lest my stomach explodes. No, what is taking all my reserves of strength and willpower is teaching myself not to feel guilty every time I eat, convincing myself to stop worrying about what I cannot or should not control (whether food-related or just plain anxiety). Someone said to me once that discipline is neither good nor bad - what matters is what you're working toward. And if you're working toward hatred and self-validation (and maybe being what other people say we should be), discipline is probably a bad thing. But you do have strength and you do have a knack for working hard and pushing yourself. Which can be great thins when used towards great end. Happy birthday - I agree that you're a fantastic writer and a fantastic soul and capable of achieving so much more than a smaller number itching up against your butt. So, please don’t feel envious of my “discipline,” because it totally wasn’t that.

That’s really quite brilliant. It doesn’t take that much discipline to get set in a routine and stick to it out of fear of not being good enough. What takes true discipline and strength is to do what’s right when every message around you is that you’re doing everything all wrong.

I have hard physical stop signs and somehow ended up hard-wired against visibly dieting, so two workouts a day or six hours without food leave me pretty much unable to walk. But I do work out every morning and eat tons of vegetables and all these things that are looked at with some degree of admiration, as if they exemplify willpower.

But I LIKE having a morning routine and getting sweaty and gross before work. I like vegetables so much I have to cut down lest my stomach explodes. No, what is taking all my reserves of strength and willpower is teaching myself not to feel guilty every time I eat, convincing myself to stop worrying about what I cannot or should not control (whether food-related or just plain anxiety).

Someone said to me once that discipline is neither good nor bad – what matters is what you’re working toward. And if you’re working toward hatred and self-validation (and maybe being what other people say we should be), discipline is probably a bad thing. But you do have strength and you do have a knack for working hard and pushing yourself. Which can be great thins when used towards great end.

Happy birthday – I agree that you’re a fantastic writer and a fantastic soul and capable of achieving so much more than a smaller number itching up against your butt.

]]> By: kira http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1203 kira Sun, 09 Dec 2007 04:11:25 +0000 http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1203 Happy birthday - you should be proud of yourself for how far you've come. Here's to another great year! Happy birthday – you should be proud of yourself for how far you’ve come. Here’s to another great year!

]]> By: Carrie http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1202 Carrie Sun, 09 Dec 2007 03:01:53 +0000 http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1202 You absolutely STOLE THOSE WORDS FROM MY HEAD!!! Creepy. I'm glad to know that it is possible to overcome. And realizing, no *celebrating*, how far you've come is an awesome gift to yourself. Have a wonderful birthday. You absolutely STOLE THOSE WORDS FROM MY HEAD!!!

Creepy.

I’m glad to know that it is possible to overcome. And realizing, no *celebrating*, how far you’ve come is an awesome gift to yourself.

Have a wonderful birthday.

]]> By: RHC http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1201 RHC Sun, 09 Dec 2007 02:31:20 +0000 http://goodwithcheese.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/remember/#comment-1201 Your response to Crystal was so heartfelt and true it made me tear up. It's astounding how much hatred women secretly harbor for themselves but label something else. And how much of this is couched in the phrases "healthy maintenance/ lifestyle." I thank you so much for... you. Happy Belated Birthday. Your response to Crystal was so heartfelt and true it made me tear up. It’s astounding how much hatred women secretly harbor for themselves but label something else. And how much of this is couched in the phrases “healthy maintenance/ lifestyle.” I thank you so much for… you. Happy Belated Birthday.

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