Good with cheese?
There was this poem I read in high school, A Late Aubade by Richard Wilbur. I remember liking the sensuality of it, the lost morning spent idle in bed, but what I remember most is the end:
“Wait for a while, then slip downstairs
And bring us up some chilled white wine,
And some blue cheese, and crackers, and some fine
Ruddy-skinned pears.”
So, as someone who has spent the last several years attempting to defy her natural pear shape, and is now trying to embrace her pearness, her pear-itude if you will, I’m trying to reframe my thought of pears. And when I think of pears in a positive way, I think of that poem and those lines. If pears can be that drop-dead sexy when paired with regular ol’ cheese and wine, then there’s hope for me, too.
Also, cheese is just damn tasty.
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I just want to thank you for linking to Elastic Waist — we’re loving reading about your journey!
…And now we’ve added you to our blogroll so that other people who don’t know about funny writing can fall in love with your blog like we have!
…And now I’m thinking you should write a guest post! What do you say? Email us!
Thanks to linking to my blog, too! And, I loooove cheese. ; )
love love love your blog. Your thoughts and opinions have helped me with my own disordered thinking. Thanks for being honest
Hey blogmate,
I’m in the midst of making an independent zine. Your words are some of my all time favorites, and I’m wondering if I can include them with credit to you. Let me know.
Much love,
Gabby
i feel like i just hit the mother lode.
glad to have found you.
Note from a fellow pear
Thanks. I am really enjoying your blog and am adding you to my blogroll so your words may continue to spread the joy.
Gertrude
http://gertrudegrannypanties.wordpress.com
Thanks so much for the blogroll! I started to notice my hits going up like crazy, and about half of them are now from you.
Now I’m feeling pressured to update more.
Have a nice day !
I just want to thank you for this blog site. I am going through the exact same journey as you. After losing 35 pounds on Weight Watchers, and keeping it off for over 2 years, I couldn’t stand the craziness of dieting and forced exercise. Now I am up 15 pounds and needing to buy bigger clothes. It is a daily struggle to fight the urge to diet again. Yet, I know that dieting is not the answer. It never was. It would never be permanent anyway, so why waste my life (yes it was consuming my life) away being miserable. But I do miss being a size 6/8 and looking good in all types of clothing. Anyway, reading your blog really helps remind me that I have made the right decision to listen to my body, and to ditch ‘diet’ foods. Thanks so much!!
I cannot thank you enough for sharing. Finding balance is so very difficult, and your blog is amazing. I can laugh and cry…feel inspired and motivated. You really have it all here.
I can relate to your most recent posting, and bunch of others..but this last one really stood out. I felt like someone had slapped me in the face with a fly swatter when I hopped on the scale two months ago. I’m not going to lie…I nearly f***ing lost it. There they were, the blaring red numbers my brain couldn’t compute: 162lbs. Ten months prior to this terrifying moment I was about 145 lbs and exercising regularly. Then depression crept in and I became an under-eating, over-exercising gym rat. I dropped 25lbs in 3 months and I recall being “happy”. I was light on my feet, getting all kinds of positive attention…everyone kept telling me I’d never looked better. Deprivation and daily punishment at the gym had become my escape from a failing relationship. I had become so obsessive about exercise, I started to ignore my body’s cries for rest and relief. When I woke up one morning and could barely walk to my car, I had an epiphany. It was that day I left my boyfriend of 7 years and moved in with my family.
Now that I was in a safe, nurturing place I promised myself to stop the craziness and let my body heal. I accepted the fact I was going to gain weight. I started feeling great, and eventually lost the motivation to exercise-I didn’t think I needed to and frankly-I didn’t want to. In the months that followed, a different addiction made its way into my life–I began to enjoy the gluttony of eating past full, and justified every extra cookie or brownie. I had adopted an “all or nothing” attitude, and my waistline showed it. I wasn’t pleased about buying bigger clothes, or how I looked naked…but it was winter and my clothes covered every inch. I was in denial. I attempted to start eating clean and tried to get myself to the gym, but my workout clothes didn’t look good anymore, and I really had no desire to be seen in them.
There is more to the story, but I’ll stop here. Since the weigh in, I find myself wanting to go back to the days of spending 2 hours at the gym, and having a 16oz double soy latte, an apple, and salad with just lemon juice for the day. I dream about my former self, wearing a loose-fitting size 4. Reading your blog has made me realize how irrational my thoughts are, and I don’t feel as lost. Your experiences feel like my own, and I am rooting for you. You are a light in my darkness. Thank you, thank you, thank you.